When we’re happier we feel more inspired and motivated. A natural byproduct of happiness is more confidence, belief and energy. We all want to be happier.
Sometimes, though, it feels as if we have the weight of the world on our shoulders, and instead of making best use of the time we have each day, all we end up doing is creating more stress for ourselves. Here are 10 simple tips and strategies to ease the overwhelm and feel more relaxed and happy.
1. Being good enough
We are bombarded with stories of “success”, whether that’s through friends, your network or through social media.
It’s easy to feel that we don’t measure up somehow. We may not be as far forward in our business as other people. We may not be earning as much.
We live in a super competitive world. It’s a great thing to have ambition and want to grow as a person.
The problem starts though when we constantly compare ourselves and beat ourselves up that we are in some way “not good enough”.
If you start getting into that kind of mindset, stop. Challenge yourself about that way of thinking.
What is “good enough”? Who defines that anyone is actually better than you?
As long as you feel happy about yourself and stay true to your own values and purpose that is all that matters.
Celebrate your own wins, don’t look to other people’s success, then you will be happier.
2. What others think (or seemingly think)
We’re all individuals with our own unique experiences and qualities. Stay true to yourself and do what you want rather than worry about other people’s expectations.
It’s your life, your decisions and choices. Others love to pass on their opinions and judge. Don’t let that change how you feel about yourself.
Create your own day, month, year and life. When you care too much or are influenced by what others say, you take control away and live your life for them rather than yourself.
3. Things that happened in the past
The experiences, events, mistakes and successes that happened in the past make up who we are in the present.
We’ve all made mistakes. Don’t let that define who you are right now.
Instead, look at what you can learn from those past experiences. We all get to decide what from the past we want to take into the present and use to create out ideal future.
Choose the best things and cut yourself some slack with the other things that didn’t go so well. Have gratitude for the good things and learn to forgive yourself more often.
4. What you think you’re missing
We often magnify the negative and place less value on the things that are positive.
We have the opportunity to create our day every day. To feel a sense of abundance rather than a focus on what’s missing in our business and life.
We think about and focus on what we don’t have rather than taking a step back and really immersing ourselves in everything that is good.
I always tell my clients to focus on their strengths and increasing their capabilities in those areas rather than on the negative.
Don’t worry about the competition. Instead focus on where you add the biggest value.
Take a piece of paper and write down all of your greatest strengths. Then write down everything in life that you appreciate right now.
You’ll soon realise that you have a lot to be grateful for. There will always be people who have more and people who have less. Be happy for who you are, what you have and the value you bring.
There is actual failure and the fear of failure. The thing is, everyone has failed in something.
It’s how you react to failure that counts.
The fear of failure often makes people shy away from working on new concepts or achieving big goals. Rather than having the courage to tackle something new or scary they stay safe and stick with what they know.
If you’ve experienced failure in your business or life, you know it’s your attitude to failure that matters. Do you get back up or stay down?
Do you learn from it or blame someone else? There is always something to be learnt from a failure. Maybe you don’t think about it as a failure but an experiment or learning experience.
6. People’s expectations
Is someone else’s expectations of you more important than your own?
When you’re comfortable and confident about yourself, you really don’t need to be someone else or prove yourself to anyone else.
Don’t buy into those constant success stories or perfect lives or perfect businesses. You don’t know what’s really happening behind the scenes to create those perfect stories or images.
Don’t lose sight of what’s really important to you and what you believe in. Accept yourself and everything that makes up who you are.
7. Always worrying about the future
We spend so much time in our futures that we often forget about what we could create right now.
We lose sight of the opportunities that exist in the present and worry about all the things that may happen in the future.
This distracts us from the here and now. It stops us from taking action in the present moment.
Stop. Use the next hour to put plans in place to create your ideal future rather than imagining what it could be. Don’t worry about what could be. Commit to the present.
8. “When this happens” thoughts
It’s always ideal to have a direction of travel. To know where you’re heading and how you’re going to get there.
The thing about knowing where you’re going is that you take control of your journey. You decide the steps you will take to get there and what the achievements will be along the way.
You decide when you’ll be happy.
If we believe we’ll only be happy once something has happened (that may not be in our control), we often put our life on hold until the event happens.
This takes away the joy from living in the present moment and creating our direction of travel.
9. Being perfect
It doesn’t always have to be perfect before you start. Sometimes we are so concerned that everything is just so that we forget to move forward.
Procrastination sets in. We go through things over and over again to make sure everything is perfect. We begin to doubt ourselves.
Sometimes we start and never finish. We move onto another project because the first one is not quite right.
Often this is because of fear. Fear of what others may think. Fear that it’s not as perfect as we want.
Can you move forward with a minimum viable product? Are you 80% happy with what you have so far?
If the answer is yes to those questions, take that step forward. Believe in yourself. You can always make changes as you move forward.
10. Feeling or being rejected
In some way most of us are so afraid of rejection or being different that we stay in our comfort zones.
It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there. To stand on a stage. To present new ideas. To risk feedback. To risk being vulnerable.
But, the more you hide out of fear, the greater the fear will grow.
Sometimes the opportunities, increased capabilities and outcomes you get to experience are far greater than you expected.
It’s often never as bad as you think it will be. The confidence you may feel will often outweigh any negativity.
We often create a negative reality in our own mind that isn’t there in the outside world. Use some of these ten strategies to create greater happiness and freedom in your business and life. They may also increase your motivation and confidence.
About The Author
Mark Pettit helps entrepreneurs and business owners leverage their time to achieve more whilst working less. He helps people achieve their personal and business goals faster through 1:1 business coaching.
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