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Being happy or not is a choice.  If you want to learn how to be happy, it’s important to understand that happiness is a uniquely personal experience.

We can choose to look at things through a lens of feeling happy about our experiences – the people we spend time with, the decisions we make, our current situation, or not.

Being happy is a mindset

When you understand that happiness is a mindset, that it is internally driven, your muscle becomes more powerful every time you choose to be joyful.

In the morning you can start the day feeling positive.

This feeling can come internally as well as externally, be that from experiences you have with family and friends, or a funny story you read.

During the day, you can then choose to maintain that feeling, despite the ups and downs you may experience.

Feeling happy then becomes a decision, which can appreciate over time every time you choose it..

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10 simple strategies to increase happiness

Joyful words

We all have words that make us feel happy and confident.

Some simply make us smile.

US researchers have started trying to measure the happiness of the world at any given time.

Using something called the hedonometer, they have analysed millions of messages written in English on Twitter to give a ranking for that day and location.

Popular words included happiest, laughter, smile, rainbow and music.

What are your happy words?

Make happiness a habit

As happiness is internally driven, it’s essential to take ownership of it.

Make a commitment to be happy every day for a specific period of time, try 14 days, and see how you feel at the end of each day.

Create a gratitude journal and write your positive feelings about yourself, and others each day.

This simple happiness habit will increase each day.

The decision to be happy is a decision that each of us can make right now.

How to be happy in life 

If you want to be happier, use these 9 tips which give you the action steps on how to be happy and more content.

1. Surround yourself with happy people

We like being with happy people.  Things just feel so much better.

“You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” Charlie Tremendous Jones

If you want to be happier surround yourself with people who are happy and make you feel happy.

When you spend your time with people who are unhappy you will become unhappy.

If you spend your time with complainers and blamers, you’ll naturally gravitate to the same mindset.

Be it your friends, family, co-workers, or close network, gravitate towards positive people who make you feel good about yourself, make you laugh or you just feel happy being around them.

2. Become the happiest person

Happiness attracts happiness.

Become intentional about being the happy person that people gravitate towards.

When we choose to buy something or work with someone, we are naturally pulled to the persona who has a happy demeanour, rather than someone who is not.

Ask yourself, how can you become the type of happy person that more and more people want to spend time with and collaborate.

3. Expand your existing happiness

The key to create increased levels of happiness is to build on your existing feelings of being happy.

We are happy in different areas of our business and life.

Rather than pursue happiness, look at the areas where happiness already exists and look to build upon what you already have.

When goal setting, recognise your progress and achievements.

With your family and friends recognize what is good about them to elevate your feelings of happiness.

To expand your existing happiness, start off positive by recognizing what you have and just keep making it bigger from there.

4. Be happier through goal achievement

Happiness is often achieved when we reach something that is measurable, be that a number or an event

Being happy with an achievement comes from making measurable progress, whether winning or simply moving forward

When happiness is achieved as the result of something specific, you know exactly what made you happy.

You can use this capability and knowledge be able to see how to replicate that happiness in the future.

5. Focus on your positive progress

Every step towards your custom-designed growth and achievement makes you happy.

Whether that is a 1% improvement on something or a bigger breakthrough towards your goals.

When we achieve something that makes us happy,

This achievement could be for ourselves or helping someone else achieve something that is crucially important to them.

Always focus on progress, not perfection to stay happy.

6. Don’t compare yourself

The key to personal happiness is to be happy with who we are.

To be proud of what we’ve achieved, happy with where we are right now and confident about our future happiness.

It’s easy to compare ourselves to ourselves and look at their success or growth.

If we feel we don’t match up, we’re not happy.

This can escalate into frustration and stress.

It’s easy to feel that we don’t measure up somehow.

The problem starts when we constantly compare ourselves and beat ourselves up that we are in some way “not good enough”.

If you start getting into that kind of mindset, stop.  Challenge yourself about that way of thinking.

As long as you feel happy about yourself and stay true to your own values and purpose that is all that matters.

Celebrate your own wins, don’t look to other people’s success, then you will increase happiness. 

7. Express gratitude daily

If you want to be happy, express gratitude every day for what you to have and to the people in your life,

When you appreciate things and people, their value grows.

If you have a gratitude mindset you will always be coming from a place of happy abundance, rather than scarcity.

When you’ve had a difficult day, write down one or two things that you’re grateful for.

This will create positive feelings and will set your mind up for a positive day tomorrow.

8. Be intentional about what you want

Do you know what makes you happy?

If you want to learn how to be happy, the key is to get clear on what makes you happy and then become intentional about bringing that joy into your life every day.

You can choose to make your day fun or to make it frustrating.

Be intentional about bringing happiness into your life.

See out happy people and create a more positive mindset and you’ll begin to feel happier.

9. Focus on value creation

If you come from a place of wanting to help people you come from an abundance mindset.

You aren’t expecting anything in return.

Happiness for you is derived from simply being useful to other people.

Naturally, those people will be grateful that you helped them.

This builds your confidence and feelings of gratitude.

Which in turn makes you happier.

Over to you.

What activity do you do that makes you feel happy?

What are your biggest happiness tips?


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About the Author Mark Pettit is a leading 1:1 business coach to ambitious entrepreneurs who want to free themselves up to jump to the next level of time freedom and business growth. He is the founder of Lucemi Consulting, a coaching and consulting company. Visionary, creative, and generous, he is a hero to entrepreneurs seeking to work less, do more of what they love and multiply their revenue and profits.
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