If you want to learn how to be more confident, it is essential to understand the role self-confidence plays in your business and life.
When I work with entrepreneurs and business owners as their business coach, I see that their number one responsibility is to protect their personal confidence.
This is true for everyone.
When you have confidence as a daily resource, you feel more confident about learning, responding to challenges and obstacles and having the ability to adjust quickly to setbacks and roadblocks.
In this article I will share 10 self-confidence tips that will help you be more confident, boost self-esteem and develop an abundant mindset that will help you accomplish everything you set your mind to.
How to become more confident
Confident people have the ability to transform fear into focused and relaxed thinking, communication, and action.
If you don’t believe you’re a confident person don’t worry.
You can develop your confidence muscle and build it up to a unique capability.
When you build confidence into a capability for yourself, you can have it in endless supply.
This self-confidence is key to putting your mind and body into a productive state so you can see the present and future and create focused, action orientated strategies to take advantage of them.
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How to be more confident in yourself
Here are 10 action steps you can take if you want to understand how to be more confident:
1. Be more self confident by stopping negative self talk
This is an essential mindset to master to boost your self-confidence.
You have to be aware of your own thinking and give yourself some time and space to think about your thinking.
Become more aware of your self-talk and the thoughts you have about yourself and what you’re doing.
If there are specific themes to the negative self-talk, step back from that thought and ask yourself “why am I thinking that?” “is there a more positive way of looking at this?”
Become more self-confident
When you catch negative self-talk, try to replace the thought with a positive one.
If you think you are far away from achieving your goals, stop and reframe that thought.
Think instead about how far you’ve come from where you started. Become achievement focused.
Negative become positive and self-confidence rises.
2. Build lasting self-confidence
Think back to a time when you achieved something but were fearful at the beginning.
What lessons can you learn? How was your confidence when you achieved that thing?
Was there are process you went through to overcome that fear?
If you have a number of examples of overcoming fear, you may notice patterns developing that you can use to overcome any current challenge that scares you.
If you want to learn how to be more confident use this simple thinking exercise to prove to yourself that you have the ability to overcome things you are fearful about.
Knowledge of previous achievements can help boost self-confidence.
3. Think confidently to overcome negativity
Rather than focus on weaknesses that you wish to improve, focus on expanding your unique strengths
One of the things I learned when I started my coaching business, was how to replace negative thoughts (see next action) with positive ones.
My intentionally created positive thoughts, and reframed bad situations into a positive focus, which made great things happen.
With that tiny mindset shift, I was able to get new clients quicker and stay confident and positive every day.
4. Increase your capabilities
How can you be more confident? By increasing your capabilities.
And how do you do that?
Have more confidence by committing to something
By making a commitment and having the courage to follow through.
Through practice and achieving improvement every day.
Just do small bits at a time.
If you want to be a more competent speaker, for example, don’t try to speak in front of 100 people on your first go.
Just begin to speak more.
Speak at smaller networking events. Record some short videos.
Talk to a small group of close friends or peers on a subject you know well.
The more you speak, the better you’ll be. That incremental improvement will help you to be more confident.
Whatever area of your life and business you want to improve, set aside 15 minutes a day to practice.
Regular practice will increase your capabilities.
5. Focus on achievements to boost self-confidence
The first step here is to be clear on your goals. Goal setting brings clarity and focus.
When you break each goal down into an action llan you know what you need to do and by when, which calms feelings of overwhelm.
If you set an objective to achieve three major things each day, it is much harder to become overwhelmed with a long to-do list.
Rather than having 10 or more things on your to do list, shrink the list to 3 or 5 things.
You will have the calmness of being clear where to focus your time and through ongoing success you will build momentum and confidence.
6. Understand what increases your confidence
We all have a different sense of what ‘feeling confident is’.
It is very personal, so it will vary from person to person.
There’s no one size fits all approach to confidence and what works for one, won’t always work for another.
How can you figure out what gives you confidence?
Your past can make you more confident about your future
Look back into your past and remember a few occasions in your life when you felt most confident.
Now, think about what was it about those times that made you feel so empowered. So confident.
Was it the environment you were in?
The people you were with?
Something that you were doing that gave you a lot of energy?
A feeling you had?
The more clarity you can get about this past example, the easier it will be to tap into your self-confidence muscle when you need it.
When you understand this process you will have the ability to be more confident whenever you choose.
7. Be true to yourself
One of the surest ways to lose confidence is try to be someone else.
As Oscar Wilde said:
“Be yourself, everyone else is taken.”
The surefire way to build personal confidence is to simply be true to yourself.
When you’re trying to be someone you’re not, you’re not being authentic.
Forget fear of missing out and focus on your own path.
You are not everyone else. You are you. And the more you can understand who you are and what you value the stronger you will be.
When you stray away from who you are, you lose confidence because it’s ‘just not you’.
Boost self-confidence by being you
Think about your super strengths.
What do you love doing that makes you feel energised and motivated?
When people talk about you, what are they saying?
Ask 5 of your closest friends and family to tell you what they admire most about you.
Chances are, within the responses there will be some common themes.
Write these down.
Do they sum up your super strengths?
The simple act of people you respect and know you best identifying the things that are great about you will give you huge confidence.
8. Stop comparing yourself
Nothing can reduce your confidence quicker than comparing yourself to others.
Lack of confidence comes from a gap in where you see yourself and where you think you should be.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Just stop.
Instead, look at how far you’ve come.
Rather than comparing yourself to others and feeling that you’re not as far forward as you think you should be, measure backwards from where you’ve come from.
See how much improvement you’ve made. Acknowledge your wins and successes.
With this mindset you will always be in a state of positive focus and confidence.
9. Spend time with people who grow your confidence
Confidence is an internal state.
It can be multiplied by the people you choose to spend your time with.
Make a focused effort to collaborate and create a community with others who provide encouragement, support, positivity, and inspiration.
Spend more time with people who ‘get you’ and want to spend time with you.
10. Celebrate achievements every day
Self-confidence grows when we achieve something that is important to us.
However, we often fail to recognise and celebrate all the great little wins we achieve every day.
At the end of each day, write down 3 things you’ve achieved or are grateful for.
This simple habit of celebrating achievements is one of the best practices for boosting self-confidence daily.
Creating self-confidence is not about knowing it all; it’s about trusting that no matter what happens in a particular situation, you’ll be able to handle it and learn from the outcome.
Protecting self-confidence and self-esteem is an essential capability to develop. When challenges and obstacles arrive, it is our self-confidence that will give us the focus and creativity to overcome the obstacle with confidence.
Now I’d love to hear from you.
What one thing gives you the most self-confidence?
What one tip can you use to boost your own confidence?
Leave a comment below and let us know.
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