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When you practice self-care and trust in your own abilities, you know you’re doing something positive for your future,  which makes you feel more confident.  Being confident is a belief in yourself to succeed at the things that are important to you.  If you want to learn how to be more confident, these 10 self-confidence tips will help you build positive habits, be kinder to yourself and increase your self-esteem.  

Confidence comes from feeling good about yourself and having a belief in your own abilities.  You can improve your self-confidence by trusting yourself to take on the challenges and obstacles that life throws at you. 

When you value yourself and have healthy self-esteem, your confidence grows.  When your life has a clear direction and purpose, you have greater self-confidence to achieve your goals.  

To develop self-confidence, it’s important to recognise what you’ve already achieved, talk yourself up and focus your time on the things you’re really good at.  

This article shares 10 self-confidence tips that will help you learn how to be more confident.  These tips will help you build your self-esteem and develop an abundant mindset so you have the confidence to accomplish everything you set your mind to.

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10 tips for improving your self-confidence 

Here are 10 self-confidence tips you can use to learn how to be more confident:

1. Be more self confident by stopping negative self talk

You can build self-confidence and self-esteem by believing in and trusting yourself.  Feeling good about yourself can stop negative self-talk and replace it with positive self-talk. 

You can increase your confidence by being aware of your thinking and giving yourself the time and space to think positively about yourself.

To overcome negative self-talk, it’s important to shift your perspective and think about yourself as a friend.  When you practice positive self-talk, you can reframe any negative feelings about yourself with feelings of positivity and being good enough.  

When you believe in yourself, and are happy with yourself, you feel more confident and capable. 

2. Build lasting self-confidence

You feel self-confident when you achieve things that are important to you.  To build self-confidence, set yourself up for success by using past achievements as a confidence booster.  

When you feel fearful, you can build self-confidence by looking back to past experience where you overcame your fear.  If you lack self-confidence, identify the areas of your life where you don’t feel confident.   

You may notice patterns that give you low self-esteem, which you can use to build confidence in those areas.  When you feel confident, you trust your ability to handle difficult situations. 

Whenever you lack confidence, identify the causes of this feeling and focus on the areas of your life where you feel confident and have high self-esteem. 

3. Think confidently to overcome negativity

To improve your confidence it’s important to think confidently to overcome negative feelings.  Confidence increases when you feel positive about yourself and focus on your strengths. 

When you spend more time using your strengths and capabilities your self-confidence and self-esteem improves.  When you express gratitude for what you have in your life you feel more confident.

Being intentional with your time, energy and focus increases your confidence.  When you’re intentional you have a clear direction and focus, which builds confidence about what you can achieve in your life.

Build your confidence by learning how to be more intentional.

4. Increase your capabilities

Confidence comes from believing in yourself and expanding your strengths and capabilities.  When you’re self-confident, you trust your own judgement and abilities. 

Confidence is built up day by day by doing more of the things you excel at.  To develop confident habits, and the confidence that comes from them, practice and get better at the things you feel confident about. 

Through practice and achieving improvements every day you build self-confidence.  Greater confidence comes from making daily progress and seeing improvements every day, however small. 

If you want to learn how to be more confident, decide on something you want to be more confident about and dedicate 15 minutes a day to improving that skill or capability.

Regular practice boosts self-confidence and increases your capabilities.  Being confident means feeling good about yourself.  When you have high self-esteem, you want to seek greater improvements.

5. Focus on achievements to boost self-confidence 

Making positive progress towards your goals builds confidence and self-esteem.  When you feel confident, you take on bigger challenges, capture bigger opportunities and reach your goals faster.  

Goal setting improves confidence and brings greater clarity and focus about what you want to achieve in the future.  This gives your life greater direction and focus, which builds confidence.

When you set measurable goals, and make progress on your goals, you feel better about yourself.  You feel like you’re making progress in your life.  Goals give you the framework to make positive progress every day.   

This helps you plan your day confidently and get clear on your biggest priorities.  This structure helps you feel clear, capable and confident about achieving those results.  

When you achieve your daily goals you build confidence and self-esteem.  If you make this daily goal achievements a habit, you’ll continue to build your self-confidence.  

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6. Understand what increases your confidence  

Confidence is built on accomplishment and achievement.  To build your confidence, it’s important to understand what gives you confidence so you can spend more time in those areas.

To build your self-confidence, look at everything in your life that gives you feelings of confidence and self-esteem.  Get clear on the things that give you confidence in the present, and what gave you confidence in the past.  

You can boost your self-confidence by focusing on the things you feel positive and confident about, rather than worrying about the things that lower your confidence.  The best confidence habit you can develop is to identify and expand on the things that already give you confidence.  

Learn more about how to build self-esteem.

7.  Be true to yourself

Confidence is a feeling of self-assurance and belief in yourself, rather than trying to be someone else.  To build self-confidence it’s important to be thankful for what you have and express gratitude for who you are. 

One of the quickest ways to lower self-esteem and confidence is to compare yourself to someone else.  Confidence builds when you value yourself and feel worthy, regardless of any negative feelings. 

To be more confident, it’s important to be true to yourself and talk yourself up.  When you are clear about who you are, and what you want in life you feel more confident.  This gives you a clearer vision and purpose and allows you to follow your own path.  

You can build self-confidence when you’re kinder to yourself and talk yourself up.  You can boost your confidence levels by being self-aware and focusing on the things you’ve already achieved and the things you’re good at.  

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8. Stop comparing yourself

Comparing yourself to other people lowers self-esteem and confidence and ensures you don’t feel good about yourself.  To boost the feeling you have about yourself, focus on the things and achievements that increase self-worth and confidence. 

To build self-confidence, recognise what you’re good at and build positive relationships with people who appreciate you and make you feel positive about yourself.   

Instead of being self-critical, be kind to yourself and focus on the things that make you feel happier and more positive.  Develop a gratitude practice to appreciate yourself and the people you have in your life.  

Self-confidence builds when you make improvements and see positive progress in your life.  To be more confident, celebrate your wins and successes, rather than comparing your life to someone else’s.

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9. Spend time with people who build your self-confidence

You can increase your self-confidence and self-esteem by spending more time with people who build you up and give you confidence. 

When you spend time with people who make you feel positive about yourself, your self-confidence increases.  If you spend time with people who don’t appreciate you, you can experience low self-esteem.  

Self-confidence is an attitude about your skills and abilities.  To build self-confidence, spend time with people who acknowledge those capabilities and want to talk you up.

10. Celebrate achievements every day

Daily progress towards your goals increases self-confidence and gives your life greater motivation and purpose.  Your confidence builds when you accomplish things that are important to you and see the improvements they make in your life.  

Build self-confidence by recognising and celebrating your daily achievements.  Developing this positive habit builds motivation and increases your self-esteem.   

To reach your goals, you need the confidence and motivation to overcome fears and obstacles.  Celebrating daily achievements builds the self-confidence you need to overcome those challenges and turn your goals into reality. 


You can build self-confidence in yourself by celebrating what you’ve already achieved, practising self-care and focusing on the things you’re really good at.  To build a strong sense of self-esteem, start building confident habits that make you feel good about yourself.

To increase your self-confidence, build positive relationships, know your goals, accept your emotions and practice positive thinking.  When you like and value yourself as a person, your mindset and confidence will grow.  You can make better decisions, assert yourself and build greater self-esteem. 

Now I’d love to hear from you. 

How do you build self-confidence?  

What’s your best tip for building your self-esteem? 

Let me know in the comments. 

Self-Confidence Tips

This article is part of the self-confidence tips series. You can also read the other articles in the series below:

13 powerful ways to boost self-confidence 

11 tips on how to build self-confidence

3 simple ways to increase confidence every day

4 simple ways to be more confident 

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