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Self-confidence is a capability that can be developed over time. Learning how to build self-confidence is a process of improving the areas of your life you feel confident.  Having self-confidence allows you to trust yourself and your abilities more.  Improving your self-confidence positively impacts your physical and mental well-being.

Building  confidence habits requires a strong sense of self-esteem and the development of positive daily habits.  Feelings of self-confidence can drop over time so it’s important to protect your self-confidence.

Having self-confidence can improve your performance at work and home.  Building confidence and self-esteem can help you reach your goals faster, build better relationships, and improve mental strength.

Increased self-confidence can help you feel happier, more motivated, and more grateful.  Self-confidence grows when you’re comfortable with yourself and have a clear plan of who you want to be in the future.

If you lack self-confidence, there are things you can do to build your self-confidence.  In this article, I’ll share 9 tips for building self-confidence that will help you feel more confident and self-assured.

Read also: 10 essential self-confidence tips 

How to build self-confidence

Here are 9 tips for building self-confidence.

1. Set goals 

It’s easy to lose confidence if you don’t have measurable goals to work towards each day.  Being confident means being clear on what is important to you, and making progress in those areas.

Goals give your life direction and focus.  Having goals to work towards builds self-confidence when you see positive progress towards goal achievement.

Read my guide on how to set and achieve goals.

2. Talk yourself up

Building self-confidence is about feeling better and more positive about yourself.  You can build your self-confidence by talking yourself up each day.  Highly confident people start and end each day by recognising something positive in their lives.  Their self-confidence grows by celebrating things that have gone well.

The process of starting and ending the day on a positive note, helps you be kind to yourself and builds your self-confidence.  When you feel like you’re achieving, your confidence grows.

3. Recognise what you’re good at

To build your self-confidence it’s important to recognise what you’re good at.  Highly confident people focus on their strengths, rather than their weaknesses.

Instead of trying to fix your weaknesses, building your self-confidence by identifying the unique strengths you have.  You’ll increase your self-confidence faster when you spend more time doing activities you love to do and are great at.

4. Be kind to yourself

It’s hard to feel good about yourself and self-confident if you don’t feel good about yourself.  Highly confident people are kind to themselves and develop the habits that build self-confidence.  It’s important to build self-confidence physically, mentally, and spiritually.

To build self-confidence, make time to practice self-care.  You can build your self-confidence by developing an abundance mindset, journaling, and expressing gratitude daily.

When you feel better about yourself you stop comparing yourself to others and blaming yourself for past failures.

Read also: 7 ways to develop an abundance mindset 

5. Don’t compare yourself to others

Comparing yourself to others can lower your self-confidence and self-esteem.  People who compare themselves to others feel guilt, envy, and fear of missing out.

The purpose of having self-confidence is to put your mind into a productive mindset so you can see the possibilities and opportunities around you.  Comparing your situation or your level of success to others creates a scarcity mindset.

A scarcity mindset can cause you to question your ability, which lowers self-confidence.  When you have self-confidence you can focus on yourself and celebrate your capabilities and achievements.

If you’re struggling with FOMO, learn how to overcome fear of missing out.

6. Plan your day 

Some days you may feel more confident than others.  One of the most important factors in developing confidence is planning and taking control of your day.  When you start your day feeling confident you can achieve greater results during the day.

If you can learn to master the start and end of your day, you will quickly gain greater confidence and self-esteem.  To help you do this, start each day with a morning routine that identifies the things you want to achieve that day.

You can also end each day feeling confident by identifying the things you achieved that day.  This ensures that you feel like you’re making positive progress every day.

Read my guide to effective daily planning.

7. Create positive daily habits

Confidence grows when you build positive daily habits.  When your goals are important to you making progress every day becomes a constant in your life.

You can build self-confidence by having the willingness and perseverance to show up every day and work towards those goals.  Taking action builds confidence and ensures you feel like you’re making progress.

8. Focus on value creation

To be more confident, shift your focus from yourself to others.  Build your self-confidence by helping others achieve their goals.

By focusing on creating value and helping others, your confidence will grow.  You’ll feel great about yourself and will feel grateful for the skills you used to help those people.

Your confidence will grow when you can make a difference in the life of someone important to you.

9. Work with a coach 

To build your self-confidence it’s important to surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself.  Working with a coach, or mentor will give you greater belief and increase your confidence.

Working with a coach will give you greater clarity, direction, and confidence.  A coach will believe in you, support you, and create a safe space to discuss problems and challenges.  This will help you feel more confident about yourself.

Having someone to help you set goals and ensure you focus on your priorities ensures you don’t lose confidence and self-esteem.  When things get rough, having a support structure will ensure you always stay confident and have a clear path to follow

Read also: 6 benefits of accountability coaching.

 Summing Up

Learning how to build self-confidence can take time but your confidence can build every day if you follow the tips laid out in this article.  These tips for building self-confidence will help you set better goals, focus on your strengths, talk yourself up and be kinder to yourself.

Pick one or two that resonate with you and take action every day to boost your self-confidence.

This article is part of my “Building Confidence” series. Links to other articles in this series below:

3 simple ways to increase confidence every day

4 simple ways to be more confident 

How to be more confident: 10 self-confidence tips 

13 powerful ways to boost self-confidence 

About the Author

Mark Pettit is a time management coach based in Colchester, Essex, UK.  He is the Founder of time management coaching company Lucemi Consulting.

Mark provides time management coaching programs and accountability coaching programs to entrepreneurs and leaders in London, Essex, Suffolk, East Anglia and across the UK, US and Canada.

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