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Self-esteem is an important part of success in business and life.  When we have low self-esteem we can feel stuck, depressed and lacking in confidence and self-worth.  When we have positive self-esteem or self-respect we have the self-confidence and motivation to take the action steps needed to achieve out goals.  If you want to improve your self-confidence and learn how to build self-esteem, this article will show you what self-esteem is and give you 12 powerful tips to start building self-esteem.

The key to building self-esteem that many people forget is that self-respect and knowing your self-worth are internally driven, not externally driven.

Many people, however, take their self-esteem cues purely from external stimuli.  However, the key to building self-esteem, and in turn self-confidence, is to combine internal self-worth with external factors that build self-confidence.

When our self-esteem is high, we feel better about ourselves, we feel more confident and we are more resilient.  Our self-worth and self-respect grows the more we feel confident.

When we are lacking confidence we are also likely to feel overwhelmed, stressed and trapped.  When you have low self-esteem, you’re also more prone to comparison and worrying about what other people are doing, rather than focusing on your own achievements.

If you are experiencing low self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence right now this article will share 12 powerful tips to help you boost self-esteem.

What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem is the opinion we have of ourselves based around our feelings of self-worth and self-respect.  It is an internal feeling and belief we have about ourselves and our value based on our past successes and failures and our present view of our emotional and physical states.  it is an internal feeling of self-worth and self-respect but heavily influenced by external factors including people’s perfection of us and feelings about us.

Self-esteem, like self-confidence is a capability that can be expanded and grown if you focus more on what you appreciate and what opportunities exist for you.  Having the ability to improve self-esteem means that it is not fixed and fan be grown over time.

Why self-esteem is important

Self-esteem is important because we all face challenges in our professional and personal life.  The ability to protect our self-confidence and feel a high degree of self-worth and self-respect gives us the confidence and capability to overcome those challenges.  When we have high levels of self-esteem we appreciate the skills we have and are more motivated to reach our biggest goals and dreams.

Improving your self-esteem

If you want to start improving your self-esteem, it starts with building up that self-confidence muscle.

Self-confidence is trusting in your own unique capabilities, knowledge and skills and should be protected at all time.  When we have self-confidence we have more belief in ourselves, our life and the things that are important to us.  We can all grow our self-confidence through a focus on celebrating achievements and appreciating everything we have.

If we let it, however, our feelings of self-esteem can change daily and even hourly, based on how we feel about ourselves and the reaction we have to challenges we face.

Signs of healthy self-esteem include:

  • Focused on the present
  • Positive self-confidence
  • High levels of gratitude
  • Don’t compare yourself to others
  • Feel happy
  • Have a positive outlook on life
  • Say no when you want to
  • Have cleat goals you want to achieve

12 tips for improving your self-esteem

Self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves in the present and how we feel about our future.  If you want to start improving your self-esteem these 12 powerful self-confidence tips will help.

1. Focus your energy on others

Become a source of self-confidence for yourself by being a source of confidence for others.

Expand your connection with others and focus on helping them expand their strengths and turn negatives into positives.  Develop a gratitude mindset and start appreciating and being thankful for what you have.

Transforming the confidence and self-worth of others will improve your self-esteem.

2. Deepen your best relationships

Every time you strengthen an important relationship your self-worth and self-esteem grows.

Focus on expanding your best relationships and eliminate the relationships that bring your confidence levels down.

We have limited time so it’s important to build the right connections and relationships.

Deepen the power and possibility of all your important relationships and your self-esteem levels with soar.

3. Start knowing your self-worth 

We all face difficulties every day that can knock our self-esteem.

The key to be able to overcome those obstacles is to protect your self-confidence and start recognising your self-worth.  If you focus on the achievements you make every day, and the progress you make, you will boost your self-worth.

At the end of every day write down three things you’re happy about or that you achieved.

Even if you’ve had a bad day and your confidence is low, finding things that went well will transform your confidence levels.

4. Don’t compare yourself to others

We can experience low self-esteem when we compare ourselves to others.  Focus on your journey and the progress you’re making, rather than comparing yourself and your achievements to others.

Comparison can rob you of your self-esteem and confidence if you let it.

If you want to learn how to build self-esteem you must stay on your own path and celebrate your own progress to build your feelings of self-esteem and self-worth.

5. Be grateful for what you have

Gratitude amplifies and builds self-esteem, while complaining and blaming can create low self-esteem and attract negative thoughts and feelings.

Focus on knowing your self worth, appreciating yourself and the things you have.

When you feel grateful you feel more abundant and build self-esteem.

Expressing gratitude builds self-worth and creates the opportunity for your best thinking, actions, and creativity.

If you want to learn how to build self-esteem, focus more time and energy on everything you’re grateful for, and communicate that gratitude daily.

6. Get clear on your goals

You can improve self-esteem when you have a clear destination you want to reach and a plan on how to get there you feel confident.

Without clear goals with measurements and deadlines it’s easy to get off track, get distracted and feel overwhelmed.

The clearer you are about your goals, and the more measurable progress you make, the bigger confidence boost you’ll get.

7. Be intentional with your time

Feeling that you haven’t achieved anything can lower your self-esteem and confidence.

Learning how to build self-esteem starts with being intentional with your time, and having a clear focus on your biggest priorities.  If you can do this, and make progress on achieving your goals every day, you will start improving your self-esteem.

Spend your time wisely with the people that matter and on the activities that are crucially important to you.

8. Set better boundaries

One of the simplest ways to learn how to build self-esteem is to create better personal and business boundaries.

We have more control over our time than we think.

Don’t let others control your time or take advantage of your nature.

Get clear and confident about what’s most important to you and the goals you have.

Learn to say no more often to the opportunity and people that don’t fit in with those goals.

Capture and maximise those opportunities that are important to you.

9. Develop new capabilities

When you master a new skill or capability your personal confidence and self-esteem grows.

The simple act of getting better every day at a capability that is important to you improves self-esteem.

One of my clients wanted to grow her you tube channel.

At first she didn’t have the capability but she was committed to growing the channel.

With every new video her capability, self-esteem and confidence grew.

10. Commit to something important

Making a commitment to achieve a specific goal helps with building self-esteem.

You may not have the confidence or capability to pull off the goal at the beginning.

But with every small step you make towards achieving that goal, your self-worth grows.

But, it starts with making a commitment to something and putting measurements in place to track your progress.

11. Always be learning

It’s a common response to feel low self-esteem when you feel you failed at something.

But if you can shift your mindset to a place where there is no failure, it will boost self-esteem.

Think of everything as either achieving or learning and you’ll never be short of self-confidence.

12. Focus on your biggest strengths

Self-esteem and self-confidence grow by using the unique strengths we have to achieve something that is important to us.

Rather than trying to improve weaknesses, focused instead on expanding the strengths you have.

If you can spend more time doing activities you’re great at and love to do, this will build your self-worth.

Figure out what you’re great at and then amplify the time you spend doing that activity.

Summing up

The bottom line is that learning how to build self-esteem and self-confidence takes time.

By focusing on achievements and the progress you make every day you will feel more self-confident and start building self-esteem.  If you surround yourself with people that build up your self-esteem and self-worth you’ll feel much better about yourself.

Now I’d love to hear from you.

What’s your number one tips for improving your self-esteem?

Let me know in the comments.

Read also:

13 powerful ways to boost self-confidence

How to be more confident: 10 self-confidence tips 

3 simple ways to increase confidence every day 

About the Author

Mark Pettit is the Founder of Lucemi Consulting and a small business coach to business owners who want to simplify their time, energy and focus so they can multiply their freedom, impact and results.

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