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Photo by Darius Bashar on UnsplashIf you want to learn how to build self-esteem it is important to understand that self-esteem and self-confidence are internally driven.

Many small business owners I coach recognise the value of improving their feelings of self-worth.

Many, however, take self-confidence cues purely from external stimuli.

The key to building self-esteem, and in turn self-confidence, is to combine internal self-worth with external factors that build confidence.

When our self-esteem is high, we feel better about ourselves, we feel confident and we are more resilient.

If our confidence is high we are also less likely to feel overwhelmed, stressed and trapped.

Building self-esteem

We all want to boost self-esteem, but sometime it takes time to build up that confidence muscle.

If we let it, our feelings of self-esteem can change daily and even hourly, based on how we feel about ourselves and the reaction we have to challenges we face.

The key then to building self-esteem is to put yourself in an environment and mindset where your confidence is always high.

That you feel like you’re making progress every day.

This starts with simply liking yourself more and focusing on the achievements you make every day.

These wins build personal confidence and compound daily if you take the time to step back and think positively about your personal performance.

When you appreciate and express gratitude for what you have and what you’ve achieved you boost self-esteem.

If you make this a daily habit, you’ll learn how to build self-esteem.

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How to build self-esteem

When it comes to your self-esteem, only one opinion truly matters — your own.

External reinforcement of that self-worth from your family, friends, clients, team, bosses should serve only to amplify your personal sense of self-confidence.

If you want to learn how to build self-esteem or how to improve self-esteem, here are 12 powerful tips to help.

1. Focus your energy on others

Become a source of confidence for yourself by being a source of confidence for others.

Expand your connection with others and focus on helping them expand their strengths and turn negatives into positives.

Transforming the confidence and self-worth of others will boost your own personal confidence.

2. Deepen your best relationships

Every time you strengthen an important relationship your self-worth grows.

Focus on expanding your best relationships and eliminate the relationships that bring your confidence levels down.

We have limited time so it’s important to build the right connections and relationship.

Deepen the power and possibility of all your important relationships and your confidence levels with soar.

3. Focus on your achievements

We all face difficulties every day that can knock our confidence.

But, if you focus on the achievements you make every day, your feeling of self-esteem will grow.

At the end of every day write down three things you’re happy about or that you achieved.

Even if you’ve had a bad day and your confidence is low, finding things that went well will transform your confidence levels.

4. Don’t compare yourself to others

Focus on your journey and the progress you’re making, rather than comparing yourself and your achievements to others.

Comparison can rob you of your self-esteem and confidence if you let it.

Stay on your own path and celebrate your own progress to build self-esteem.

5. Be grateful for what you have

Gratitude amplifies and builds self-esteem, while complaining and blaming can attract negative thoughts and feelings.

Focus on appreciating yourself and the things you have.

When you feel grateful you feel more confident.

Expressing gratitude builds self-worth and creates the opportunity for your best thinking, actions, and creativity.

If you want to learn how to build self-esteem, focus more time and energy on everything you’re grateful for, and communicate that gratitude daily.

6. Get clear on your goals

When you have a clear destination you want to reach and a plan on how to get there you feel confident.

Without clear goals with measurements and deadlines it’s easy to get off track, get distracted and feel overwhelmed.

The clearer you are about your goals, and the more measurable progress you make, the more confident you’ll feel.

7. Be intentional with your time

Feeling that you haven’t achieved anything can lower your self-esteem and confidence.

When you are intentional with your time, and focused on your biggest priorities, confidence grows.

Spend your time wisely with the people that matter and on the activities that are crucially important to you.

8. Set better boundaries

One of the simplest ways to improve self-esteem is to create better personal and business boundaries.

We have more control over our time than we think.

Don’t let others control your time or take advantage of your nature.

Get clear and confident about what’s most important to you and the goals you have.

Learn to say no more often to the opportunity and people that don’t fit in with those goals.

Capture and maximise those opportunities that are important to you.

9. Develop new capabilities

When you master a new skill or capability your personal confidence and self-esteem grows.

The simple act of getting better every day at a capability that is important to you improves self-esteem.

One of my clients wanted to grow her you tube channel.

At first she didn’t have the capability but she was committed to growing the channel.

With every new video her capability, self-esteem and confidence grew.

10. Commit to something important

Making a commitment to achieve a specific goal builds self-esteem.

You may not have the confidence or capability to pull off the goal at the beginning.

But with every small step you make towards achieving that goal, your self-worth grows.

But, it starts with making a commitment to something and putting measurements in place to track your progress.

11. Always be learning

It’s a common response to be hard on yourself when you feel you failed at something.

But if you can shift your mindset to a place where there is no failure, it will boost self-esteem.

Think of everything as either achieving or learning and you’ll never be short of self-confidence.

12. Focus on your biggest strengths

Self-esteem and confidence grow by using the unique strengths we have to achieve something that is important to us.

Rather than trying to improve weaknesses, focused instead on expanding the strengths you have.

If you can spend more time doing activities you’re great at and love to do, this will build your self-worth.

Figure out what you’re great at and then amplify the time you spend doing that activity.

Summing up

The bottom line is learning how to build self-esteem takes time.

But if you set yourself specific, measurable goals to improve self-esteem and confidence every 90 days and put in a clear action plan it can happen.

Read also:

13 powerful ways to boost self-confidence

3 simple ways to increase confidence every day 


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About the Author Mark Pettit is a leading 1:1 business coach to ambitious entrepreneurs who want to free themselves up to jump to the next level of time freedom and business growth. He is the founder of Lucemi Consulting, a coaching and consulting company. Visionary, creative, and generous, he is a hero to entrepreneurs seeking to work less, do more of what they love and multiply their revenue and profits.
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